Everyone cannot survive independently of relationships, especially love and marriage relationships are the most important part of human intimacy. In this kind of intimate relationship, it is not terrible to discover problems and present emotional problems. The scary thing is that people don’t know why these problems or emotions arise, or why the relationship gets worse. What's more frightening is that both parties are unable or unwilling to find a solution to the problem, and it is also difficult to find a way to adjust their emotions and repair their relationships. In the long run, the intimate relationship will become more and more unhealthy and even crack, which may cause physical and mental harm to yourself and even both parties.

Problems that often arise in love and marriage relationships are usually related to communication, trust, jealousy, betrayal, finances, sex and. Especially in marriage, family issues such as the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and the education of children will also have a greater impact on the emotional and intimate relationship between husband and wife.

So what are the manifestations of unhealthy relationships?

1. Severe mood swings, violence, and aggression in language or behavior

This is usually an external manifestation of conflicts that have intensified because the problems that have arisen in the relationship have not been well resolved. Once there is a major change in the relationship, such as one party cheating or cheating, or one party being severely attacked, the sufferer will suffer a major blow, and the accompanying shame will increase, and the sense of self-esteem and self-worth will decrease. At this moment, humiliation and resentment are at the same time, and there are violent fluctuations in their own emotions, usually accompanied by fierce quarrels, and the aggressiveness of both parties will increase significantly.

Of course, some people will habitually have emotional attacks or have obvious anger. This may be because they have emotional problems or psychological barriers themselves, and it is necessary to detect and evaluate through professional means and provide timely guidance and intervention.

2. Cold violence

This is a passive attack method, which is more concealed and destructive and will bring greater internal damage to the other half. The long-term indifference between partners is often more hurt than frequent quarrels.

Quarrels can at least see and hear each other, express anger to each other, vent their emotions, and express their inner demands to protect each other's rights and interests. The cold violence, however, quietly caused serious harm to the other party. The degree of self-esteem and self-worth has been severely degraded no less than violent quarrels or betrayal, or even more serious.

Those who are abused often fall into a situation of self-denial, self-doubt, or even self-aggression, and there are obvious physical and mental problems. The long-term backlog of negative emotions accumulates deep in the heart. After being intensified or stimulated, there may be a concentrated emotional outburst, which can bring about emotional swings and even emotional breakdown.

How to get out of unhealthy relationships?

If you are in an unhealthy relationship, self-regulation is the priority solution. Individuals can ease their emotions quickly through self-adjustment and use reasonable communication methods to resolve differences between the two parties and reach a reconciliation, that would be great. Most of the sufferers who are not in deep trouble can often find relief through self-adjustment.

But if unfortunately, you find it difficult to adjust yourself, don't be afraid, because this is a very normal situation. Partners often live in their own emotions and only want to look at problems from their perspective, which may lead to a stalemate between the two parties and the gradual deterioration of the relationship. To prevent the relationship from deteriorating further and you are no longer hurt by the relationship, you can consider seeking professional help. Take the courage, you need to take the first step to change the predicament.

At this moment, if you can seek professional help, look at the problem or contradiction with a more objective perspective, and treat the other party and yourself with a fair and reasonable attitude, it will appear very wise and the problem solving will be more efficient.

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